“I am not going out with my girlfriends anymore! I am not going out at all, why bother?” That’s what I just heard from the beautiful, smart, ambitious woman in her 30-es. She is one of the beautiful, lovely and self-sufficient ladies that has it all. All – besides husband or a long term relationship… or even a date.
As a problem solver or biological-clock-ticker, she is on a mission – to get a husband. Not a date, or a boyfriend. No. She wants a husband. 6ft tall, dark and handsome, funny, healthy, sexy, polite, intelligent, communicative, love kids, love dogs, no smoking, no drinking, no baggage, he has to make at least 150K, has to know how to save it, but at the same time spend half of it on her, and of course he must have the eyes for her only. Forever. Or at least until death does them apart.
Her girlfriend, somehow, is hunting for the same guy. They both have the same list. And off they go… out to have some fun. And, as girlfriends do, they are having light happy conversation, until “The Cutie” shows up. Now, the show begins! - girls unconsciously adjust their bra, posture, hair, lips, they even start laughing louder, acting oh so sweet and quite unrecognizable.
Actually, it is interesting how we change to get noticed by the opposite sex. When it is done quietly, subtly, softly, with ease and confidence, it really brings up the erotic awareness and it triggers “something’ in the whole room. That starts from within, from the inner awareness, consciousness and presence of a girl (or a guy) that “owns” her/his own power. It is like making love to the moment of now. Sweet and powerful.
That requires high levels of “Dating skills” – inner, invisible and yet so noticeable calmness and sexiness… and thus, hard to own. But easy to copy! Just shorten up your skirt, flaunt out your bumps, humps or fishnets. After all, if you can’t knock out the guy, knock out all of your girlfriends, so they don’t compete with you. Be the loudest and the most visible one!
…and then 3 weeks later, the girl will complain how there are not enough good guys to go around, how each one is not “the one” and how he never returned her phone call.
What if there are enough good guys to go around? What if there are more than enough good guys to go around? What if dating can really be fun?
It can.
When we know who we are, when we own ourselves and receive what is a match to that infinite, Delicious energy, then, only then, we are present in this present moment. In the present moment, life is quite fun. Its wonderful. In the present moment there is no neediness. No need for a husband. Just two wonderful souls, being present.
So, dear girl, woman, lady – think about Delicious questions, ask about the possibilities, fun and maintain the attitude that there are more than enough good, great men to go around. Indeed, there are more than enough honest. loving and willing men that you can enjoy your present moments with.
Receive yourself, allow the freedom to just be and let go of the judgments, expectations and attachment. Neither of those is about now, about present moment. Don’t make your own thoughts and your list significant. Just be.
…and then, you will let the man be the man. Drop down your husband-hunting gun and Liv Delicious… then they will chase you. And that’s so much more fun for both!
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Helena Medena
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